Smokin'Ace 01-24-2008, 11:57 AM Why do some girls judge a male on there name, body type etc? And why is the population of selfish girls out there so high?
I've never really understood how 80% of girls go for the pricks at school, but there is only like 20% of girls who have interest in the guys who aren't so popular, but aren't popular them selfs. It's like I've never had any luck In finding a decent girl, I've only been out with selfish girls who 'use' me to get to something like 'money,smokes etc' and it's really starting to give me the shits.
I just wish I was with a girl who loved me cuz of who I am and nothing else. I don't want a girl that only Is pretending to love me to get smokes and all. I just wish I was with someone I could trust, care for, and love.
I wish there were more girls down this way like that.. I just don't get why most girls turn and be selfish to get something.
/rant - Just thought I would post about what I'm thinking about right now. :(
purpleprincess 01-24-2008, 10:02 PM Hey Smokin Ace,
Unfortunately we tend to live in a society where they are all shallow thinking fxxks and whether those "pricks" give them the popularity they yearn/crave for and then i am sure they learn the hard way that looks are only superficial and what is in the inside is usually ugly.
Now im probably just a wee bit older than you and read some of my older posts and i am no relationship expert - far from it actually but i know wat your saying and i have come on here to vent on several occassions - makes you feel better doesnt it.
My only advice to you my dear is stop wanting it and it will come to you and you know what that lovely girl will notice you - time and patience.
Now i am not having a go at you but a question for you : Do u judge girls on their looks etc etc etc?????
y does it seem there are lots of selfish girls out there - unfortunately i cant answer that - one either - i spose some people are here to get what they can out of people and dont care of the damage or hurt they cause along the way.
You sound like a thoughtful and nice person so hang in there - she will come and u know what love you for who and what you are - she may not be the prettiest or skinniest or smartest - but hey does that matter if you get on great !!!!!!!!
Good luck
gremlin 01-25-2008, 02:28 AM As you get older, things will get easier about the girl situation. Being 15 is always kind of horrible. Just treat the girls in your life to a mature, sensible 15 year old, who helps with buying the condoms, is not aggressive or overly jealous, and listens to them every now and then. You will be a star!
Smokin'Ace 01-25-2008, 06:52 AM Now i am not having a go at you but a question for you : Do u judge girls on their looks etc etc etc?????hmm, I guess I would be lieing if I said I didn't
My only advice to you my dear is stop wanting it and it will come to you and you know what that lovely girl will notice you - time and patience.Yeah, I guess I'm just letting tv, movies and all get to my head about it all.. even tho they are acting.
y does it seem there are lots of selfish girls out there - unfortunately i cant answer that - one either - i spose some people are here to get what they can out of people and dont care of the damage or hurt they cause along the way. Yeah I understand that, there is heaps of guys out there like that, unfortantly.
You sound like a thoughtful and nice person so hang in there - she will come and u know what love you for who and what you are - she may not be the prettiest or skinniest or smartest - but hey does that matter if you get on great !!!!!!!!I would rather someone I could get a long with over the worlds smartest girl hehe.
As you get older, things will get easier about the girl situation. Being 15 is always kind of horrible. Just treat the girls in your life to a mature, sensible 15 year old, who helps with buying the condoms, is not aggressive or overly jealous, and listens to them every now and then. You will be a star!Thanks for that, I do all that, I treat them with respect and all, it's just half the time they abuse that to get something and it's just something I'm sick of.
sk8r_rat 01-25-2008, 04:56 PM Hey Smokin'
Your post made me smile. Not because I'm laughin at you, just brings back memories of those high school days when everybody's totally immersed in their own little universe and really don't give a stuff about anyone else, throw in a whole bunch of teenage hormones and you've got yourself a recipe for somethin special.
I reckon you might just have to wait awhile, Smokin', if you want to have a relationship with someone the same age as you. You seem to have some maturity beyond your years, I think maybe your expectations of a relationship don't match up with what most chics your age expect, round where you are.
Most girls don't turn and be selfish to get something, but maybe alot of girls who are younger would. Growing up most learn that by compromising on things and treating people in a considerate manner, and not just thinking of your own needs, you become a more likeable and respected person in the end. You make mistakes, especially with relationships when you're a teen, and (hopefully) learn from those. I learnt most of that stuff after I left high school, maybe the girls you're speaking of Smokin', will have a rude awakening when they get into the real world. I know that you're not attending school at this time, I got no judgement there at all, but I'm guessing that most of the young people round where you are attend classes. School is school, and I found that people at school treated me very differently to how it was after I left. At school judgement is huge, you don't have to do much to have others throwing their judgement at you, and so teenagers become very concerned about how they are looked upon and perceived. So it matters more to people that they look good and are "cool" than if they are seen to be really considerate and nice, because that's what keeps them with the in crowd, and it's survival of the fittest in high school, I reckon. When you get out to the real world you realise that looks aren't everything, that not everbody is that shallow, and that there are so many more possibilities for friendships than at school where you've only got so many kids you could hang with. When I was at school I always felt like an outsider, that I was different to everybody else, mostly that I was never cool enough. But I was, just not in the "plastic blonde bimbo" way that is required during high school. And I'm definitely not trying to throw around any generalities or may derrogatory comments, that's just how I see it.
I know how you feel, in that you're doing the right thing and trying to be considerate and respectful and put alot of yourself into the relationship, still appreaciating a hot chic whilst not making it the be all and end all, appreciating that people are going to have faults and that's what makes them who they are, and just wanting to be with somebody you get along with. And then people take full advantage of you, when actually they should be just thanking their lucky stars they've got a partner who is as thoughtfull as you.
One of my more minor "issues" is that I reckon most people I meet end up using me and screwing me over, and I'm sick of it. I hate how people can come into my life and have me give them every bit of respect and consideration that I can, then they go and use me and go around stuffing up my life behind my back. I always seem to be left hurt and with some other major negative consequence due to other person's actions, but they don't care how I feel and have no negative consequence, so they walk away scott free and I pick up the pieces of my life. That's not fair, they should be the ones to pick the pieces and feel bad for what they've done, not me, but I guess life isn't fair. You can demand respect and consideration for yourself and give the other person all of that, but what they do with that and what they give back to you is all of their doing, but I'm still working on remembering that myself.
I guess sometimes people will use you, it definitely sucks; but it's life, at the end of the day it says alot more about them than you. When you meet new people who aren't in the school environment, and meet some nice mature girls who understand what relationships are and how to treat people, I reckon you'll be right. There might be lots of snobs out there, but there's alot of good considerate people also, and again it sucks but it just takes time.
From my perspective, I'm willing to wait, and am resolving some of my issues also whilst waiting for the right guy, cos I know it's worth the wait.
Hang in there,
sk8r girl.
Smokin'Ace 01-25-2008, 07:33 PM Thanks for taking your time to reply again sk8r :)
I completely agree, with everything you said. The one major thing you said that really filled in some of the puzzle pieces was when you said
I reckon you might just have to wait awhile, Smokin', if you want to have a relationship with someone the same age as you. You seem to have some maturity beyond your years, I think maybe your expectations of a relationship don't match up with what most chics your age expect, round where you are.
That really does make a lot of sense, I guess that's why it's been harder for me. Thanks for that. Be awesome to meet a girl like you, or any with your maturity level one day. :)
Thanks once again!,
Regards,
Smokin
sk8r_rat 01-25-2008, 08:15 PM LOL That made me laugh, you don't see what I'm like when I'm not online, Smokin, I wonder if you'd call me mature then!!! :D I think you're right though that maturity may be the problem with some of the chics that have used you. But I'm positive there's a an awesome girl out there for you, just waiting for a guy who's more mature than the "pricks at school", an you'll find her someday.
Sk8r girl.
Smokin'Ace 01-26-2008, 08:17 AM LOL That made me laugh, you don't see what I'm like when I'm not online, Smokin, I wonder if you'd call me mature then!!! :D I think you're right though that maturity may be the problem with some of the chics that have used you. But I'm positive there's a an awesome girl out there for you, just waiting for a guy who's more mature than the "pricks at school", an you'll find her someday.
Sk8r girl.hehe, Well still.. I bet you would be better then many girls down this way. :)
fudge 01-26-2008, 10:33 AM i think u have one yourself a heart sk8r
hi smokin....it is indeed a shame that there are not more girls as likeminded as our sk8r girl
just remember that these ones that are causing you grief are only young girls and you are are young lad....a true and meaningful relationship will not happen until you are dating women and you become a man...
don't grow up too fast .....we are only young for a short space in time...and then we stay old 4ever...and as sk8r said most teenagers are too absorbed with themselves and their image to really consider anothers feelings ...don't take it personally
cheers
Smokin'Ace 05-19-2008, 05:13 AM smokin... u sound like a whingeing bitch. u should hook up with that 22 girl whingeing about her insensitive fiance. u 2 would make a great couple, u would hold hands while u watch a current whinge (a cuirrent affair)
think about it.
xoxReeseWow... and someone isn't allowed to have a little judge mental opinion about things every now and then? Looks like you got your menopause starting up early on you women, may I think otherwise? Nah... It's definitely the menopause cracking onto you women, go and relax a little more in your so called great life and don't fucking mock others who have hell going on in their life at this present moment! I hope you crack one day, and I hope no one helps you out in the hard patch you WILL have one day.
Reese 05-26-2008, 02:24 PM why how very perceptive of u... it MUST be menopause!!! how else can i explain these sudden bouts of pimples when i should be well and truly over this phase when i was 'like'... SEVENTEEN????:p
What on earth makes u think my life is cushy?? :confused: what the hell am i doing on a homeless forum if my life is cushy??? :confused: shouldnt i be on... wankerville.com if my life was so FAB-U-LOUS. no. i'm here with u on homeless sookie sookie lala ok? which means MY LIFE SUX AS MUCH AS URS DOES... if not even more.
theft? yeah i've been robbed. shit boyfriend? yuz... and he's in jail. :mad: bbiiiiigggg friggin deeeeallllll!!!!
ur lucky u even got an opinion from me ok? even if its a narrow minded and CRAP one. if ur offended... sorry. toughen up... u'll get more chicks that way. we're all nasty, even when we start off nice, we end up nasty ok? the sooner u realise that, the better for ur dating. walk up to a girl and say "i'm sure ur an absolute cow and a slut, but thats ok. have a drink with me, i might like u!!!" etc etc etc.
try it.
Hi Reese,
Welcome to the homeless forums. as you will be aware some of your previous postings have been removed from the forums because the content was inappropriate.
I live on the streets myself, and yes, crap does happen. Although we invite and encourage street homeless people to vent their frustrations here on the forums we do not encourage or allow members to enter into personal slanging exchanges. You will be well aware that friction and violence can be an everday experience on the streets. We do not want that sort of behaviour on the forums.
Have your say by all means, if you do not agree with the comments that have been posted by other members then please feel free to say so. What I would ask you to do however is to post your comments in a reasonable manner. If you launch an all out assault on another member because you do not agree with the posting, then you can expect that member to respond accordingly.
These forums are International, peoples opinions and experiences may differ from yours, your opinion is not paramount, and if your postings continue in this fashion your membership will need to be re-examined.
There are times when it can seem that the whole world is against you. Many of the members on these forums are street homeless themselves and can relate to the frustrations that street life is about. Chill out a bit, and perhaps you will find that these forums are not hostile, and will offer you a chance to make some new friends.
Give it a try ...;)
The qickest way to be attractive to other people is to be interested in them, rather than get them interested in you. Be patient, true to yourself as a nice guy, don't buy into peer pressure how others think you ought to be... I grew up in Melbourne .. peer pressure is to be resisted. When you stay true to yourself your light will one day shine through.
Also, you need to define some boundaries.. like you're not there to fix a girl up with smokes etc. use the simple word "NO." You will gain respect when you stand up for yourself.
At 15, by now 16, it's OK not to be in a relationship. Hell, it's OK at any age not to be in one if it's not right for you.
Find something worthwhile to occupy yourself with - the right friends will come in time. Hang in there.
Why do some girls judge a male on there name, body type etc? And why is the population of selfish girls out there so high?
I've never really understood how 80% of girls go for the pricks at school, but there is only like 20% of girls who have interest in the guys who aren't so popular, but aren't popular them selfs. It's like I've never had any luck In finding a decent girl, I've only been out with selfish girls who 'use' me to get to something like 'money,smokes etc' and it's really starting to give me the shits.
I just wish I was with a girl who loved me cuz of who I am and nothing else. I don't want a girl that only Is pretending to love me to get smokes and all. I just wish I was with someone I could trust, care for, and love.
I wish there were more girls down this way like that.. I just don't get why most girls turn and be selfish to get something.
/rant - Just thought I would post about what I'm thinking about right now. :(
I have a few things to say on this issue.
First off: Life is not fair. Life is kind to some and cruel to others. We all get dealt a hand of cards and sometimes its not a good one.
Second: looks are EVERYTHING. ESPECIALLY if you are male. A fermale can be 700 lbs, bald, toothless with a wandering eye and still get a decent looking guy, but if you are male, and are unattractive and/or have too many charismatic defects, your life is screwed. Why do you think most homeless people are male?
Im not pretty or popular myself, and I can say for certian that if I was, I would never have been homeless in the first place, my life would have taken a diffrent turn long ago.
Thank god sex is something that can be paid for, or I might still be a virgin at 38. (well, thats not totally true, drugs and alcohol can open doors with some homeless girls as well as money)
If your a man, and you dont have decent looks, charm or charisma, then life is gonna suck and it will be difficult to find companionship. Not all male homeless people are homeless because of their looks, but a good percentage are, dont believe me? Just go to a homeless shelter or soup kitchen and look around, you will see plenty of "social outcasts" who were not dealt a good hand in the looks department.
As for me, Im still searching for that 700 pound, bald, toothless girl with a wandering eye, but every time I find one, she has a boyfriend thats a lot better looking then I am. :)
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